The key to successful self-motivation is in hiring the right type of inner-coach.
In order to help you hire the right type of inner-coach; there are five inner-coach qualities your should look for prior to hiring. If you hire an inner-coach who does not have these five qualities, you are only likely to destroy any self-motivation you presently have.
An inner-coach needs to incorporate the following qualities.
1.) Hire an inner-coach who can help you define your goals. If you do not know what you want, you will not have any achievement or success in your life. Also, look for an inner-coach who is interested in helping you define your goals and not the goals of your parents, society, or any other person.
2.) Hire an inner-coach who can break down your goal(s) into small components. If your goal is to start your own business, you will first need to set a number of smaller goals until your main goal is achieved. The general rule of thumb to follow is not to set any small goal that cannot be achieved within two weeks.
Here is a good interview question to ask a candidate you are considering hiring as your inner-coach. "Is it a good idea to set small goals that take a month or longer to complete?" A good inner-coach will tell you that if your small goal takes over a month to complete, it is not a small goal and it therefore needs to be broke down into smaller components.
3.) Hire an inner-coach who can help you remove the following words from your vocabulary: "should," "ought," "must," and "guilt." Why these words? If the goal you set is something you really want to achieve, you will not need to tell yourself you "should," "ought," or "must" do it. People who have achieved self-motivation achieve their goals because they have passion. Passion is the "emotional-gas" you have to help you achieve all your smaller goals and eventually your main goal(s). No passion, no self-motivation.
A good inner-coach also helps you to remove the word "guilt" from your vocabulary. Why should you not feel guilty about achieving your passion? Because your passion is your life. Achieving your true passion is on the same level as breathing, and you don't feel guilt about using up oxygen do you?
If you think that if you follow your passion you will take too much time away from your family, it is time to prioritize your priorities. Let go of less important priorities so you can spend more time with your family at the same time you achieve your goal(s).
4.) Hire an inner-coach who can help you not listen to the "nay-sayers," but encourages you to seek out the advice and wisdom form people who have achieved the goal(s) you are interested in achieving.
5.) Hire an inner coach who does not criticize effort, blame you for failures, or who encourages you to give up when the going gets tuff. A good inner-coach will help you to turn failures into learning experiences. Remember that failure is a perquisite before true success can be achieved.
Are you interested in hiring an inner-coach? Where can you find a qualified inner-coach to interview and possibly hire? Is there a certification board or inner-coach school that you can call to obtain a list? No, there is no inner-coach university.
The best inner-coach to hire is YOU! You are the best inner-coach you can hire because who else knows your dream goals better than you do. Unfortunately, we all have a number of types of inner-coaches within us, and not all are there to help meeting our dream goal(s). Therefore, you will need to only listen to the advice of the inner-coach who can meet the five qualities that I have outlined, and fire any inner-coach who can't cut-it.
Happy Working,
Gary Vikesland, MA LP CEAP
Employer-Employee.com
